At first glance, the idea of a stepson who plays games at home may seem alarming. However, there is no big problem with playing video games at home. Video gaming isn’t detrimental to your stepson’s mental state or your relationship. Simply, it is a way for him to have fun while relaxing or escaping reality.
However, the main concern remains his ability to balance video gaming with responsibilities. This article digs into why your stepson loves video games and how you can rescue him if his obsession goes beyond the limit.
Why Your Stepson Loves Video Games
In this world of technology, video games have become one of the most popular pastimes. It’s no wonder your stepson plays them regularly. Basically, they;
- They help him stay active
They encourage him to exercise, move around and spend time with his friends. Video games also offer a unique way for kids to interact and learn from each other. This makes for a more fun environment than just having them sitting in a room all day playing video games on their own.
- They help him socialize with others
Video games have become an important part of our society today. They help kids learn how to interact with people to build friendships, improve at sports, develop leadership skills, and more! Kids will often play video games with their friends instead of hanging out at home or playing outside by themselves like they used to do when they were younger (or even now!).
- They offer an escape from reality
Your stepson could be using video games to escape from the real world. In other words, they could be using the game as a way to escape from their problems and find relief in a virtual world that doesn’t exist. They may also be using the game to achieve goals that are important to them on a personal level (e.g., completing certain levels).
- They teach him problem-solving skills
Video games allow your stepson to practice problem-solving skills in games and real-life situations. For example, if an obstacle is blocking his path, he might need to figure out what he needs to do to get past it (e.g., find a key).
Or perhaps there’s a puzzle that needs solving (e.g., finding all the hidden objects in an area). Your stepson learns more about how we solve problems when facing challenges that require us to think strategically about our options.
Helping Your Stepson Regain Control of Video Games
Video games are a great way to relax and enjoy the company of your stepson. However, it can be addicting, to an extent of carrying your stepson. So, you should efficiently monitor the amount of time your stepson spends playing video games to regain control of his life. Here is how to go about it.
- Identify his motivation
Regaining control over video games is a process. It takes time, patience, and commitment. Step one is to identify why he plays video games and why he is drawn to them. This can sometimes be difficult because he may not be open to you at first.
However, if you take the time to become more aware of your stepson’s life and interests, you may find that his motivation closely resonates with his personal life. If something else is driving him toward gaming, such as boredom or a lack of social skills, finding ways to get more involved in other activities could help him resolve his problem with video games.
- Build rapport with him
Once you have identified their motivations, it’s time to build rapport with your stepson so that he trusts you and feels comfortable discussing this issue. Ask open-ended questions such as “Do you ever feel like you need a break?” or “What do you like about video games?” These questions will help create an environment where your stepson feels more comfortable sharing what is going on in his life.
You can also offer support and encouragement as he shares what he likes about playing games with others online. Once you’ve established a rapport with your stepson, it’ll be easier for you to introduce your pain point.
- Talk about why you’re concerned
It’s important to be honest with your stepson and let him know you’re concerned with his time management habits. Tell him that he has been spending too much time on video games, neglecting other important chores and even homework.
The more precise you will be, the better chance of winning his attention.
- Manage expectations and set boundaries
You should tell him that video games are not the be-all and end-all of life. He needs to take responsibility for his actions and not blame it on video games. Similarly, he should know that there is more to life than just playing video games.
So, to manage his expectations, set boundaries, and delegate responsibilities. This way you will limit the time he could have spent gaming.
- Make sure they have productive hobbies
In addition to limiting the time they spend playing video games, you can also help your stepson regain control by ensuring they have other things to do.
The key here is to find an interactive activity that will keep him busy all the day. This could be anything from biking, swimming to reading and writing poems.
- Finally, get involved in his life as much as possible
Communicate with him regularly and find ways to include him in family activities such as dinners or walks around the neighborhood when you can. This will help him feel loved and appreciated by his parents — while at the same time avoiding contact with video games.
Play is a neutral coping mechanism that helps children deal with their stress. And even though video games can cause stress, they also play a vital role in helping your stepson deal with the emotional difficulties.
This is why monitoring the amount of time your stepson spends playing video games is crucial. The idea here is not, cutting him off entirely—it’s more about developing a healthy balance between his gaming habits and responsibilities.